How Sex Therapy Near Me Can Help with 2023 Sex Intentions
What is Sex Therapy Near Me?
Sex Therapy in Minneapolis might just be the next step for you! What is Sex Therapy in Minneapolis? Great question! If you haven’t checked out my other blog, FAQs about Sex Therapy in Minneapolis, I would start here before reading onto this one. These questions will help you understand a little bit more about what meeting with a Sex Therapist in Minneapolis is like. Sex Therapy in Minneapolis is a lot of different things! In our work together, we will assess, understand, treat, heal, process thoughts, and explore emotions tied to shame. In sex therapy with me, I love to ask my clients about messages of shame and guilt in all areas of their life because we may have to start there first, especially for Sex Therapy work. I use journaling exercises with sex therapy, which some may call a narrative therapy approach, in order to help and heal shameful messages. In sex therapy with me, we dive deep! It is a safe space to focus on sexuality, shame, and self, as these all tie into sex therapy.
What about sex therapy exercises?
Fab questions! Sex therapy with me, we also work on Sex Therapy Exercises! I like to use various kinds of sex therapy exercises as a clinician for sex therapy and all therapy services I provide in Minneapolis. Some sex therapy exercises include assessment of symptoms, creating goals, working on sexual shame, confidence, pleasure, masturbation techniques, communication skills, how to initiate sex, sex education, journaling exercises, performance anxiety, self-soothing anxiety, better sex through mindfulness, grounding exercises, and more!
Let’s break this down, Sex Therapy Exercises I incorporate may involve the following topics…
How to talk about sex, orgasm, desire discrepancies, painful sex, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and any other form of sexual dysfunction symptoms
Exploring your sexuality or gender and may be questioning if you are a part of the LGBTQIA+ community
Sex education and learning what you enjoy sexually might even be kinkier than you thought versus vanilla-ish and want to learn more about BDSM/Kink
Sex changes later on in life, you want to have support in your relationship or marriage, and learn about Senior Sex
Polyamory relationships are tough to sort out boundaries, communication, feelings of jealousy, how to have these conversations, and create Designer Relationships, no seriously, great book check it out!
Talking about sex scares you, you want to learn how to communicate what is pleasurable, what is not, and what are the next steps for doing so
Performance anxiety is at an all-time high and you need to slow the fuck down, chill out, and learn how to be present during sex
I have conversations with clients about masturbation, sex toys, pleasure, pain, bdsm/kink, gender, sexual orientation, poly partners, orgasm, role playing, sexual dysfunction symptoms, sexual symptom causes, sex therapy exercises, and more related to Sex Therapy services in Minneapolis. There are many reasons to seek Sex Therapy in Minneapolis and the ones above describe a big chunk of the work I love to do with folks in this specialty niche!
How Sex Therapy Near Me Can Help With 2023 Sex Intentions
Now, the part of the blog you’ve been waiting for, the tips & tea from sex therapist Jackie! Let’s break down how sex therapy can help with sex intentions and goals in 2023. Below are my list of tips and tricks related to what you need to know and how to set yourself up for success in sex therapy.
2023 Sex Intention Tips from a Sex Therapist near me are below…
(1) Describe your sex intention.
Why intentions? Resolutions don’t work! We’re almost at week 3 of January 2023 and people fall off resolutions at this point in time. We will get more into this later, but intentions set us up for success with less pressure in sex therapy with our goals.
Intention Examples: Practice solo sexual self-care, talk about sex more, be it with self, partner(s), or spouse(s) practice makes progress, or let go of sexpectations.
(2) Why are these good ideas above?
It's important to learn about our bodies first before exploring intimacy, pleasure, or sex with partner(s). They aren't always going to know what you find pleasurable and may not know what turns you on/off, how to increase intimacy types, and this is our own work to understand first. In sex therapy for couples that can be a great sex therapy exercise I like to incorporate for couples. Not only exploration, communication, but comprehension with these intentions of being more communicative with sexual turn ons and offs. A reminder, sexual self-care isn't just masturbation, it comes in many forms of intimacy and pleasure. Taking pleasure in a hot bath, buying yourself roses, taking yourself out on a date, wearing a sexy outfit, letting yourself be naked, and touching your body, can all be intimate moments. When we learn about our bodies, emotionally, physically, sexually, intimately, and in all ways, that's easier then communicating with partner(s). This goes into talking about sex more. Ask questions for yourself: what is my relationship with my body like? What does my sexual self-care look like? Do I enjoy spending time with myself? What changes do I want to make? How can I be more intimate and practice different kinds of intimacy with myself? Then bring up those questions with partner(s) as well. Lastly, drop sexpectations. Sexpectations are anything that we think "should," happen with sex, which creates a shame response in partner(s) and/or self. When we let go of sexpectations, we are then able to understand and recognize sex we had in our 20's won't be the same in our 50's or sex may not be the same every single time. This can also be related to orgasm, stop expecting your partner(s) to have an orgasm, sex isn't for orgasm, it's for pleasure. If you are struggling with any of these difficulties above, then sex therapy near you can help!
(3) How can people best incorporate this into their sex life?
Practice makes progress, and people need to let go of expectations of being perfect. When we accept that perfection doesn't exist, we let go and go with the flow, especially with sex. Things become easier and we give ourselves permission to be a person. Put solo sexual self-care on the calendar, and plan time for yourself, pleasure, intimacy, and sex. Repeat and do this with partner(s) as well. Communicate often, sexuality is fluid and we are always changing, so never assume what a person's turn-ons/offs are. When all else fails, give yourself the gift of sex therapy or coaching services. Have someone come in and help you and/or partner(s) explore more!
Tip #1-Start setting intentions instead of resolutions and take the pressure off yourselves! As a sex therapist and coach, I don't do unrealistic goals with people who are working with me. For example, if a resolution is, "I want to have sex 7 times with my partner(s) in a week," that can be a lot of pressure like new years resolution of exercising x amount of times a week, and it doesn't always work. Instead, I'd set an intention of, "I want to experience more sexual pleasure with my partner(s) during the week." Resolutions feel like they're set in stone, then we experience shame when we don't do them, and intentions give us the grace and permission to fail and try again if something doesn't work.
Tip #2-Prioritize your own solo sexual self-care. Lots of times we place sexpectations on our partner(s)/spouse(s) to know our bodies, pleasure zones, and turn ons/offs when we don't even understand these ourselves. It's important to practice solo sexual self-care, which can be broken down into 13 different types of intimacy, it's not just sexual intimacy, it can also be emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and many more. If we take time to be emotionally intimate with ourselves, quiet our thoughts, and do the work to understand our body's better, then that can help with communicating this to partner(s)/spouse(s) too in the future!
Tip #3-If all else fails and you need extra support, sex therapy or coaching can be a great way to kick off your sexual health goals in 2023! If you want to learn more about your body, the sex education you never got, pleasure, masturbation techniques, and more, then these could be great options for you to check out and commit to in the new year! Contact those providers today because we get booked up right at the holiday time and start off the new year. This is the sign you've been looking for, so take the next step and do you!
What else do I need to know about starting Sex Therapy or Coaching in 2023 to help with intentions?
If you are ready to seek sex therapy or coaching near you, then read through these quick tips about services! Sex therapists or coaches may have waitlists, only a few available times during the week available, and you may need to be flexible. If you are seeking sex therapy for couples, the same may apply regarding late sessions, and you may need to be flexible with your work/life schedule, especially if there is only daytime/morning availability. If you are serious about your sex life, relationship, sexual satisfaction, repair work in your relationship, sex education, or other sexual wellness goals, then I know you’ll do what you have to do to prioritize you! Sex therapy can work on so many different things, so make sure you read up on my website what sex therapy and sex coaching can help with overall. Reach out to a sex therapist near you today! Here’s where you can book a consultation for sex therapy or coaching on my site here. Thank you so much for reading this blog and being here today! If you know of anyone that is seeking services, please do not hesitate to send them this blog and my website with all the shameless services below!
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