How to Find the Best Personal Lube for YOUR Sexy Self Care Routine!
Hey everyone, shameless sex therapist Jackie here, bringing you insights from Minneapolis, Minnesota. I’m sipping on a yummy latte from Rustica in St. Louis Park area, off of 3224 W Lake St, Minneapolis, MN 55416 near the beautiful Chain of Lakes in Minneapolis, MN. Welcome back to my website blog, where we dive into sex therapy, sexy self-care, and various sex tips. Let's talk about personal lube. We'll break down personal lube and understand the five P's, guiding you to select the best personal lube for your sexy self-care routine. Let’s jump right into these 5 P’s for personal lube considerations and spill the tea right away!
Purpose: Determine the purpose of the lube, if there’s something specific you are seeking out, and why you’re buying it. I also say try before you buy! There are great sample packets on Amazon here, shop my Store page, yes, you guessed it, these are affiliate links, which don’t cost you anything to support my business by purchasing through these! Check out my whole storefront here.
Places: Think through the places on the body where the personal lube is going to be used. What’s the goal(s) for application?
Pleasure: Take time to shop around and do your Pleasurework aka any work that’s pleasurable when it comes to sexy self care or self care in general. You aren’t just going to know what personal lube is best for you right away, so make sure to take your time, try before you buy, and do your Pleasurework.
Play: Reflect on the kinds of sex you’re having or sexual activities you are engaging in. Make sure your personal lube pairs well with this.
Price: Think through price and even create a sexual self care budget for products. Again, do your Pleasurework. Take time to think about the lubes you’d like to try before you buy and how that price ties in.
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How is Personal Lube Helpful?
Firstly, let's discuss personal lube. It plays a significant role in enhancing an individual's or couple's sex life. Personal lube offers numerous benefits, including increased pleasure, reduced pain, heightened chances of orgasm, delicious tastes, and compatibility with various sex toys. There's no shame in the personal lube game, and as a couples sex therapist and individual sex therapist, I often assist individuals and couples in finding the best lube for them.
What You Need to Consider When Selecting Personal Lube
Consider the five P's of lube: Purpose, Places, Pleasure, Play and Price. Below are additional tips and reflection questions on purchasing personal lube for your sexy self care routine and Pleasurework.
Purpose: Determine the purpose of the lube. Does it offer sensations like cooling or warming? Is it designed to enhance specific pleasures?
Places: Identify where the lube will be used. Is it primarily for genital stimulation or all-around body play? Consider the specific areas of application.
Pleasure: Explore the kinds of lubes you enjoy. This involves considering taste, flavors, texture, and overall pleasurable sensations that align with your preferences.
Play: Consider the types of sexual activities you engage in. Ensure the chosen lube complements various activities, positions, and sex toys.
Price: How much am I willing to spend on lube? Ask yourself this question and reflect on it. Think through if there are multiple kinds of lube that you’d like to use, try, or intrigue you. Maybe there are sample packs to order or shop around for and these are some great questions to consider.
What is the Best Personal Lube for Me?
Only you can answer this question. Your preferences are unique, and what pleases you may differ from others. As a sex therapist, I emphasize the importance of experimentation and research. Water-based lubes are generally safe for use, especially with sex toys.
How to Incorporate Personal Lube in Your Sexy Self Care Routine!
Experiment with the 5 P's and pay attention to how your body feels. Sexual self-care is crucial, and personal lube can significantly contribute to it. Reflect on the following questions:
What do I want in a lube?
How does this personal lube feel against my body?
Will this personal lube harm my sex toys?
Are there any safety precautions (e.g., allergies) I need to consider?
What are my feelings towards using personal lube for sexual self-care?
Do I want my personal lube to serve a particular purpose? If so, what?
Do I want my personal lube to cater to specific places? If so, where?
Do I want my personal lube to align with a particular pleasure? If so, what?
Do I want my personal lube to accommodate a specific play? If so, what?
What have been my favorite personal lubes for sexual self-care and why?
I hope this guide helps you find the best personal lube for your sexy self-care routine. These questions, coming from a sex therapist's perspective, aim to assist you in discovering what types of personal lube suit you best.
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