Solo Sexual Self Care this Valentine’s Day and Month!
Valentine’s Day Gifts
Hey everyone, sex therapist Jackie typing in from Minneapolis, MN! How the hell are ya? First off, Happy February and where the hell did January go? Second Happy Valentines Day coming around the corner! If you take anything away from this sex therapist in Minneapolis’ writing today, take this, Valentines Day and Solo Sexual Self Care is for everyone and any day of the year! We don’t need just one day to show ourselves some love, am I right??
Now, I don't want you to think automatically I have to be partnered or in a relationship to be able to celebrate Valentine's Day. Fuck that shit. Am I right? For me personally, I used to hate Valentine's Day in Minneapolis, Minnesota, and how much the topic of sex would come up or pleasure or seeing all these different things out there in the world. There is a privilege being in a relationship with a partner or partners and for single folks out there, I don't want you to get discouraged!! This day is for you too boo!
I, personally, used to have a Valentine's Day tradition for myself when I was single. In the past, I would focus on my own personal sexual pleasure and that is my sexual self-care tip for those single folks out there. I will NEVER regret doing that! I would buy a new bra and panties that were a matching set that I really really enjoyed. If you know me, I love me some glitter so I can slay all day! Truly, this made me feel good. When it comes to pleasure, that doesn't have to mean just buying yourself something nice. That's just what I personally wanted to do because I really enjoyed getting into the spirit of the holiday and focusing on my self-love through my body, enjoying how I looked and felt in the clothes, which was pleasurable. Sometimes now, I focus on my solo sexual self-care for Valentine's Day or even the week, because it's important for this sex therapist in Minneapolis MN to practice what I preach! Solo sexual self-care is an important and significant practice to do and get into. Now for you maybe buying a bra and panties is not your jam, like this sex therapist in Minneapolis, MN and that's okay. That doesn't mean sexual self-care can't look like other things for self-love and how to show yourself some love this Valentine's day if you are solo sex or focusing on your relationship with yourself. I want to give you a couple of different options if you are single and ready to mingle or not because COVID-19, in Minneapolis, MN. I want to share with you some different types of things for you to focus on your individual sexual self-care, and sexual self-care tips that are super important for individuals because we may not even focus on it at all or maybe we don't know where to even start.
Solo Sexual Self Care Tips
The first sexual self-care tip from this sex therapist in Minneapolis over here is to focus on what gives you pleasure and joy in life. Pleasure does not just mean masturbation pleasure does not just mean touch. Pleasure can mean so many different things. A new tradition that I've started is I love me some other fucking chocolate-covered strawberries on Valentine's Day. Yes, it's a tradition. I have it. I love it. It's my favorite dessert and it gives me fucking pleasure! When else can you get chocolate-covered strawberries in Minneapolis, Minnesota during this year? I mean truly. Is that the same for you? Is it chocolates this time of year? Cooking yourself a feast? Enjoying a glass of wine? Ordering takeout from your favorite restaurant? Writing a valentine to you or someone you love? Wearing lingerie or a sexy outfit? Or is it those candy little hearts? So think about what gives you joy and pleasure.
Your Valentines Gift Guide
Second, if you want to buy something for yourself that is for sexual enhancement, GO FOR IT! This sex therapist in Minneapolis, MN repeats this message on the daily there is no shame in the solo sex or pleasure game!! This can be more than toys, it can be books, lubricants, products, pleasure enhancers, and more! Check out the guide below for more!
Relax Sucking Toy for Clit Suction
This is the sex toy that has made history since the COVID-19 virus! The suction of this toy stands out alone amongst others. It is a different type of pleasure sensation your body experiences compared to a multi-speed vibrator!
This is a great sex toy for sensation, the softness of the material, and pleasure!
6pcs Waterproof Silicone Set for Anal Play Training
Anal training is not something to be rushed. It takes time! That’s why having multiple pieces can be beneficial to understand how slow and steady can be for pleasurable anal play!
Not gonna lie, this lube does not match up to others when it comes to anal play. You’re going to want to add this one to your collection, just saying!! You’ll thank me later ;)
5. 3 Piece Beginners Set for Anal Play
These are a soft pair of butt plugs that have three different shapes to help open up the anus. Did your purple jewel fall out? Not to worry, that’s for cleaning purposes, pop it back in there for that sparkle sweetie!
6. Vibrating Silicone Cock Ring
It’s such a good vibration oooh! This can be paired with a partner or partners in the future too!
7. Rechargeable Personal Massager
When really, we all know what it’s used for! Massage those genitals, and feel those good vibes only. This is a great product to have around for multi-purpose use, sure back massage, and genital massage, it’s a two-for-one, fuck yeah!
As a sex therapist in Minneapolis, I highly recommend checking out these different types of products. Got that Amazon Prime Membership? Then what are you fucking waiting for!!! Get them before Valentine’s Day this year! Be it if you are practicing solo sexual self-care this Valentine's day or week or month or a year, whatever you do you boo, this Valentine’s Gift Guide is for YOU!
Back to Sexual Self Care Tips…
Third, explore solo self-touch. Focus on your body, starting from head to toe, or toes to head if that’s your thing ;) Simple notice what areas of your body absolutely turn you on and you can’t help yourself from going there. Think through different types of touch and pressure, that enhance pleasure. Journal what this experience was like and what you are taking away from it!
Fourth, similar to the last one, focus on a shower or a bath and intimacy in your body. Slow down, notice where you are washing, what the scent smells like, how it feels to be connected to your body in this moment. Some of my favorite shower products, body products, and skincare products for sexual self-care…
Treating ourselves to a bubble bath can be an intimate moment and sexual self-care. I personally enjoy this brand and product for all the different scents and styles the product comes in.
2. St. Ives Exfoliating Body Wash Cleanser Sea Salt
This product is honestly amazing!! I love how soft my skin feels after this washes and exfoliates my body.
3. First Aid Beauty Ultra Repair Cream Intense Hydration Moisturizer
Legit, the ultimate flex, especially with cold-ass winters here in Minneapolis MN or any other place on earth. This has been my favorite moisturizing cream to date for dry skin that’s always getting cracked!
Uhh because who doesn’t love foam soap on their face?? YES! This is the softest most delicate facial soap ever, perfect for sensitive skin out there, and has a light, airy scent!
Okay, so you may be like Jackie WTF Men’s razors???? Uh, FUCK YEAH! They work better and honestly, razors have no gender, I use these and absolutely love them compared to all the so-called “women’s” razors out there. They work like a charm!
6. 24K Gold Eye Mask– 15 Pairs - Puffy Eyes and Dark Circles Treatments
Revitalize your skin for yourself! Why not look great for you and treat yourself to a little face mask, foot mask, or these undereye treatments, taking care of our skin is sexual self-care!
Fifth, treat yourself to a good read or audiobook! Here are the books I recommend on masturbation and pleasure. These can help understand your sexuality, desire, and body better.
Sixth, if you’re working on sexual self-confidence, self-worth, and overall self-love, then I’ve got an idea for you! Some people may not relate to sexual self-care is also associated with self-love, and it is. When we work on loving ourselves and enhancing the relationship with ourselves more than can be beneficial to start and then build self-esteem later with our sexual selves. Louise Haye’s Love Yourself Heal Your Life Workbook is an incredible one on the concept of deservability through ourselves, others, work, finances, fear, relationships, childhood, and yes, even our sex life. I love her workbook because she covers a lot and as a sex therapist in Minneapolis, I see a lot of folks needing to work on self-love first. That’s the work I do with them by incorporating this workbook in our therapy sessions over time. We also sprinkle in the affirmations card deck to help build on this workbook. This is on How to Love Yourself Cards: A Deck of 64 Affirmations by Louise Hayes.
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